Get Clear on Your Values
It’s really important to understand that your worth as a human being is completely separate from your performance and results at work. Remind yourself of your values—being kind to others, applying yourself to challenging goals, pushing yourself, being willing to learn, being a positive team member. None of these things relate to your results or performance. If you’re confident in your personal values, then you start to see how your results are just a reflection of your ability on one particular day, not a reflection of you. When you adopt this mindset, you become free to challenge yourself even further, without fear, because you’re comfortable with your personal identity regardless of the end result.
Use Social Media to Your Advantage
But social media can be used to your advantage. The key is to avoid comparing yourself to the people you see online—whether that’s a YouTuber with 10 million followers, or one of your neighbours. Every single person has challenges, and most people’s online posts aren’t a true reflection of their reality, so don’t feel automatically envious of their position. Use social media to help strengthen your identity—be true to yourself when you’re online, warts and all. You’ll find that, not only will you feel more comfortable if you’re not trying to be fake, but your followers and friends will also appreciate the refreshing authenticity of not having to look at another heavily filtered picture of flawless perfection.
Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness
Recognise that right here, right now, whatever your current situation, you have all that you need to find joy and happiness. Yes, be ambitious and keep striving to improve, but also know that you are already enough. If you’re finding it difficult then download a mindfulness app and set aside some time to appreciate each day for just being alive in a world full of possibilities, rather than obsessing about all the ways in which you don’t quite match up to your expectations. You are in charge of your internal narrative—now is the time to start taking ownership of your happiness too.